Being Sad considered one of the basic emotions, sadness is psychological pain or suffering, which is a natural response to unwelcome, hurtful, or disappointing experiences. It is often associated with feelings of loss, despair, grief, helplessness and grief.
So how we Stop Being Sad ?
It is not for nothing that it is a major symptom when diagnosing depression.
She is like a nagging, sometimes accompanying us for extremely long periods.
Events such as death, romantic breakdown or dismissal are known to create immeasurable, life-changing evils.
But far from being attributable to the individual supporting it, Being Sad is usually legitimate, understandable.
It is even at the origin, on reflection, of the joy that can be felt in situations marked by success (graduation, marriage, selection after a job interview …).
When you’ve had the difficulty, you’re only more appreciative of its success.
All this to say that living without sadness is a utopia.
Man is subject to emotional fluctuations depending on his environment and perception, so he cannot deny his feelings.
However, one can wonder about the existing solutions to get away from the deranged and burning passions.
Let yourself Be Sad
Sadness is not a feeling that can easily be ignored, so it is appropriate when it seems to take over, not to deny or reject it.
It is also to this point of view that Michel de Montaigne refers when he argues:
“Truely, the effort of displeasure, to be extreme, must amaze the whole soul and prevent the freedom of its actions: as it happens to us, on the hot alarm of very bad news, to feel seized, transis and as a perclusus of all movements, so that the soul, relaxing after tears and complaints, seems to unravel, unravel and get more off and at ease. »
It is in moments of loneliness that she expresses herself in her entirety causing tears, dizziness and near-paralysis.
Those moments when everything seems to fall apart and the individual becomes self-contained can actually be used wisely.
Sadness always leads to a flood of thoughts, and although they are black and melancholy, they can be used to put words on the pain endured.
To do this, we will have to face his feelings and try to relativize as much as possible the most powerful emotions in order to deny them the right to dominate us completely.
The identification of sadness (and its material causes) underlies the idea of accepting punishment rather than fleeing from such an obstacle.
She therefore draws the outlines of an involvement and a genuine will to get by.
Which, as you know, is not necessarily a natural reflex.
Some let themselves be overwhelmed by sadness, complacent in an almost unconscious vegetative state.
As Flaubert said in a letter to Maupassant, “Beware of sadness is a vice.”
The acceptance of Being Sad can be reinforced by a special routine allowing you to compartmentalize it, to imprison it between four walls, which will eventually tighten and ultimately reduce to its bare minimum the notion of despair.
In practical terms, you will be able to give yourself a delimited moment in time each day to let go of your pain.
Why not half an hour a day, at the beginning or end of the day.
Instead of letting sadness affect you throughout the day, expel it by allowing yourself to think only of that.
Once the deadline has passed, plan an interesting material task to accomplish to limit the wave to the soul and focus on something concrete.
As these externalization sessions, you will reduce the amount of time you allow yourself, as if to express your refusal to see sadness gain ingesting ground.
Get Into Action
As the individual is in constant need of evolution, he cannot in the long run let sadness stagnate him, prevent him from taking advantage of the opportunities presented to him and deny himself the right to experience.
If this is what one can feel like to live, this hard-skinned illusion can be challenged by a sincere personal focus and accepted as a priority objective.
Thus, the darkest moments of our existence are also great springboards to radical change and a tangible expression of our potential.
Being Sad has this of good that it confronts us with our finitude and our weaknesses. The enemy being visible, it becomes achievable.
As difficult as it may be, moments of distress must allow us to focus all our attention on our personal development.
So why not start projects that can improve our daily lives?
Why not start a new training, look for new sources of interest (new leisure, new music, new places to go out, new trips…), (re)start playing sports, start a blog or redo a wardrobe?
Some decisions help to put sadness into perspective in that they mark a break between the past and the expression of renewal.
And as you probably know, material changes in the individual often lead to psychological changes.
While the motivation and desire to discover new sources of satisfaction will certainly not be present at the beginning of the process, it is clear that we have a key to really leaving sadness behind us and continue our journey.
Surround Yourself With Friends And Family
It is impossible to approach such a subject without mentioning the relief that an individual can bring when facing difficult and emotionally challenging situations.
And if no one is able to understand the sadness of others as a whole, being able to confide is always of great help.
Interaction stimulates spontaneity, dynamism and empathy.
It is therefore certain that a well-rounded person will find valuable help by searching his friends or family.
Dialogue being a recommended concrete solution in many conflicting or harmful situations, a sad person has every interest in sharing his feelings and not keeping it buried in him.
This could create wounds that would never really heal.
Open-mindedness and sharing are among the first necessities for psychological improvement, it is undeniable.
The refusal of sadness begins there!
As you understand, the subject is vast and difficult.
Sadness is both a powerful and inevitable feeling, but we have the capacity to deal with it, provided we really give ourselves the means to do so.
And then in case the tunnel seems too long, we still have the opportunity to visualize the exit in our mind and keep it in the line of sight.
Determination, too, is a key that blows up many locks…
In any event, I will leave you to ponder the possibilities that are available to you to effectively defeat any idea of excessive sadness.